Cross-posted from my other blog: onetoughvoncookie.com
As a knitter, I love knit-alongs. I think they’re great. And there’s a Yahoo! group that has fabulous patterns and has been much fun to, well, knit along with. Yeah, I objected to some of the religious-themed dishcloths, but c’mon, they’re dishcloths, who says they need to be secular? Who says they need to be anything except seasonally appropriate if possible, and occasionally technically challenging? And to be fair to the moderator, she did give ample warning that the religious-themed dishcloths were on their way; the overly-sensitive had fair time not to buy the yarn for that month’s cloth. God knows (irony intended) that there’s no shortage of dishcloth patterns to substitute for that one pesky religious-themed dishcloth.
But what happens when you get a bunch of knitters together who in turn both support and oppose the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan? All it takes is one post saying “Here are some ways to knit for the troops” and both bleeding-heart liberals and dyed-in-the-wool military families are up at arms, battling each other over whether the wars are justified. When all they really need to do is knit some dishcloths and send them to people who need them.
The moderator wrote in the rules of the group that ALL POSTS *MUST* BE KNITTING RELATED. And to be fair, that first one was—the one about knitting for the troops. What resulted was in horrible taste, each side beating up on the other passionately, each feeling that they were on the moral high ground, not realizing that a civil comment opposing the war devolved into pitiless flaming.
And so I quit the group. I want to knit dishcloths, not debate this 5-year long war. And actually, yes, I’d like to knit something for the troops, despite my peacenik belief system. But I couldn’t go without airing my thoughts on the matter. Here’s what I wrote:
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First let me say that I have enjoyed the dishcloths, that I agree that sending whatever we can to support the troops is a worthy cause, and that I equally respect the opposing viewpoint offered by scrunchy. What I do not support is flaming. I realize that the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are emotional for many people for many reasons, some personal due to family connections, some political, etc. It only recently hit home for me what a sacrifice we are asking of our young men and women who have volunteered to shoulder this burden of war, while we here at home have been asked to sacrifice very little–in which case, sending a few dishcloths or bandages or whatever we can muster is hardly a wasted use of our stash. What I wish we could all see, though, is that a house divided against itself cannot stand. We must honor each other, respect each other, especially in times of war. Opinion, free speech, equality, liberty: these are the foundations of our nation, and we honor that each in our own way. I am leaving the group because I feel that there has been too much intolerance expressed here in this forum, on both sides of the issue. And I am also leaving the group because I came here to knit, not to witness insults and verbal battery whose blame is shared among all who have participated in this discussion. I will look for ways to support the troops, but I will also exercise my right to free speech, and say here that this has been an inappropriate use of this forum, and perhaps these discussions are best carried on face to face, when we can see that we are all, still, at the end of the day, equally human and equally fallible.
Peace.
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I stand by what I said. At all times, in all nations, let there be dignity, let there be respect, and let us all love our neighbor, even more than we love ourselves.